There comes a point in life when you realize you can’t keep abandoning yourself to fit into expectations that were never meant for you. It’s the moment you stop shrinking, stop silencing your own voice, and finally step into the person you were always created to be. For me, that journey has been messy and raw — filled with unraveling, undoing, and letting go. Painful, yes. But in the undoing came blessings I never could have reached otherwise. And the greatest gift of all has been a peace that is steady, grounding, and unshakable.
I recently reread one of my favorite books by Shannon Kaiser, she says in Return to You that this process isn’t about becoming someone new, but remembering who you’ve been all along. That line has stayed with me. Because for years, I thought the answer was to hustle harder, achieve more, or mold myself into whatever the system demanded of me. But the truth is, the freedom I craved was already within me. I just needed to peel back the layers of fear, false narratives, and outside noise to see it.
The unraveling was painful. Walking away from identities, careers, and patterns that didn’t fit anymore left me questioning everything. But as Shannon reminds us, the parts that feel broken are actually the parts calling us home. The very discomfort I once resisted became the doorway back to myself.
As I returned to who I really was, boundaries became a lifeline. For so long, I blurred them in the name of peacekeeping, thinking it was easier to stay small. But boundaries aren’t about shutting people out — they’re about protecting what’s sacred inside you. Learning to say no, to stand firm, and to honor my worth became the bridge back to myself. And with each boundary set, confidence grew stronger, not from proving anything to the world, but from knowing my value and finally living from it.
Faith has been my anchor in all of this. When the doubts got loud, faith whispered: keep going, you were made for this. And integrity became the daily practice that kept me rooted in that whisper. It wasn’t about grand gestures but about showing up — as a mother, a daughter, a creator — in ways that aligned with who I truly am. When faith and integrity became my foundation, life stopped feeling like survival and started feeling like alignment.
Piece by piece, I became whole again. I stopped chasing approval and started trusting that God had already equipped me with everything I needed. And that’s when things shifted. Not just in business, not just in numbers, but in my spirit. Because once you come home to yourself, everything you build flows differently — steadier, truer, freer.
That’s the essence of returning to yourself: realizing you don’t have to fight to become someone. You only have to remember who you already are.
And that, to me, is success. Not the milestones or applause, but the quiet confidence that comes from walking in alignment with who God created you to be. With faith as your compass, boundaries as your protection, and integrity as your foundation, you unlock a freedom and peace that no one can take away.The unraveling is worth it. The undoing is where the blessings live. Because on the other side is a life led not by fear or outside approval, but by faith, wholeness, and an unshakable peace that anchors you in who you truly are.
With love,
Kahli